Cute kids, they can call him an angel, small angels; when he felt one turn, suddenly intoname.Children face the vagaries of the emotional, and sometimes parents really puzzled.
Well want to discipline?First lesson in child psychology, natural rivals and emerge victorious in every battle, and create a win-win situation discipline.
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1, constructive criticism
A lot of parents think that criticism of equal harm the child self-esteem, he pointed out that parents to children to make appropriate criticism is necessary.Criticism, parents should only be for the children's performance on certain things, and not for his personal character, or conclude that he mustbad personality, for example, do not say 'you are D you?You do not even have my assessment study of the Department of Materials!'Should try to use constructive criticism to encourage the children, can be said to' another department D, I think you should spend more time studying it!'
All being too protective of children's self-esteem, the children refused to criticize the negative behavior will only contribute to their future become irresponsible.
2, do not condone bad behavior
Roselius consider the whole child as the parents understand the psychological, they recruit the most commonly used one is called 'emotional kidnapping', to go to get their offensive emotional want, but the most common is the 'Twist of dollars', temper tantrums, crying, etc..Many parents think their children are not intelligent, self-centeredness, which will be taken to coax or continue to allow the policy, which in fact are constantly at their connivance and encourage bad behavior.
He suggested that if children encounter when using this mode, the best parents to remain calm, and then let the child's emotions to calm down slowly, do not cry because of their yield.
3, the proper use of authority
A lot of parents think their own busy job, lack of time to take care of their children, thus producing a guilty mind, became a thousand in front of the children in accordance with Baishun to avoid friction with them, and children will also know how to use this sorry psychological parents.He suggested that parents in some discipline in principle, to 'stand firm', When should say, 'can', when Say 'No'.Appropriate to retain parental authority, children can grow up healthily and happily.
Parents to do is not to coax the children to keep happy, the most important is to cultivate good health and they have personality.
4, which insists on the principle of education
To teach our children, besides being able to their psychological state of things, as parents, their psychological symptoms also to well-adjusted.When parents face their children's guilt, fear, anxiety, feelings of shame and regret, they will easily give up some important rearing principles, such as parents for their children often solve problems in their daily life, this is less so that they are a learning opportunity In time, children will be dependent on the formation of habits.
When children face any problem, the best parents in the next to remain calm and give advice when appropriate, this will also help the children at their parents, who learn to positive attitude to face the challenges of life.
5, training, independence
Often criticized today's parents being too protective of their children, too much attention and protection, will only make the child independent and difficult to integrate into the group life.The correct concept of parenting education is to train the children have an independent capacity, so that they enjoy from their own sense of happiness, rather than given by the parents happy.
24-hour personal protection, how can children have the opportunity to grow up?1 forbearance forbearance, in fact, is to help children facing difficulties, so that they can learn how to face various problems in life.
6, deal with conflict in a positive
When there are conflicts between couples, the two sides may wish to speak many express their point of view, the correct way to express negative emotions, which can serve as the children learn how to deal with the conflict in the best model.
Roselius and his wife do not agree the whole of the Cold War, criticizing each other, it is best to express positive manner.
7, to encourage appreciation for the many
Children in the course of growth of the psychological characteristics to be mentioned is the favorite praise others, especially parents, this can enhance their self-confidence.Roselius-wide recommendations for their children parents can arrange a small job, give them a chance to develop their talents and serve others, their self-confidence can be enhanced thereby.
However, he reminded parents not to use too 'empty' words to praise the child, such as: 'good', 'smart' and so on, because the meaning of these words too broad, it is better to specifically and effectively pointed out the benefits of children Where, they will be easier to understand their own.For example, 'you paste the Church's works, which draw very lively fish it.''Can you help me share these heavy things, is really a considerate.'
